"Nice guys finish last": True or False?

I was thinking of calling this entry "Being a guy sucks", but I'm sure there's equal drawbacks to femalehood, so I opted for the above title instead......... Having said that, manhood isn't all it's cracked up to be sometimes. As a guy, there's this paradigm you're expected to live up to, and in our modern era, it's gotten even more stringent. As a man, you're expected to be confident but not cocky, tough but yet somehow sensitive at the same time, nice, but not tooooo goddamn nice, because "nice guys finish last"! (God, I hate that fucking quip) It's like you're supposed to be some kind of suped up John Wayne, as if you're supposed to give off the vibe of being the kind of guy who just acts like a jerk but really is a nice guy underneath the jerk exterior. Well, sometiemes I get pretty damn tired of acting like that, and I just want to act like....... a nice guy. As for the old addage that girls only go for assholes, I have to say that I think it's a half truth. The truth in it lies in the fact that a guy who qualifies as an asshole usually gives off a more confident aura than a guy who is just way too nice, and is nice because he secretly loathes himself and has an unhealthy need to be liked by absolutely everyone around him (this used to be me). Girls don't really go for assholes, they go for confidence, and I can't really blame them. Who want's to be with someone who mopes around all the time and hates themselves?
The mistake our culture makes (in my humble opinion) is that it gives young men the impression that if they don't fit a certain mold, then there's no reason for them to act confident. Like if you're not the typical guy who enjoys working underneath the hood of a car, drinks Bud Light, and never misses a fucking Steeler's game (heaven forbid), then there's no reason for you to go around acting cock-sure. You don't have to be captain of the football team to have confidence, you can be a confident computer geek (computer geeks usually mistake snide obnoxiousness for confidence, but that's another story), or a confident artist, or a confident intellectual scholar. And you don't have to be a jerk either, girls love it when they find nice guys who have asshole-like confidence without the assholeness (the confidence of assholes is usually fake and bloated, anyhow). This brings me to my next point....
For a long time I would tell myself, "You have to be more confident, so girls will like you".... I was missing the goddam point. True confidence is a reward all in it's own, when I have it I feel better about myself and life in general, I feel hopeful and capable, and I don't really care which girls do and don't like me. I can honestly say that today I genuinely feel confident more often than not, though I do have occasional 5 minute fits when I feel kind of.... scared. I allow mysef this, because nothing is worse than getting caught in the viscious cycle of hating yourself for hating yourself. (been there, done that).....
that's all